Hello Scott, I’m 16 years old and about to go to college, what advice would you have for me, furthermore, do you have any advice and what are some things that young people do today that could maximize our time and potential
Do you think the AI market boom is going to crash soon due to overhype like the .com(dot com) boom did in the early 2000’s? If so, what would you advise to protect against at that?
You address the material problems that men are going through, but what about the spiritual? Boys get their identities from father figures. Is it not true that a man can grow up to be a successful businessman and husband, and yet still have deep questions about himself and his masculinity that cannot be addressed by material success when he has grown up without a father? What should a man in that situation do when he is already older and past development?
You address the crisis that men have with society and masculinity through your work of non-fiction. What place do you think fiction has in the role of portraying masculinity and impacting men’s lives in contrast to non-fiction? What do you think about the demoralizing portrayals of masculinity in stories from the past few years? And do you think we need more fiction written BY MEN about masculinity that is positive and strong? Finally, what’s a good example of a character—aside from Aragorn—who you think really embodies masculinity that nobody talks about? Historical people can be chosen if preferable.
Stories are very important to human societies and individuals, they are a major force in shaping the cultures and guiding our conduct. The contestants on the survival reality-show "Alone" display good character (and they're real people): resilience, strength to persevere, humility, reasect, acceptance of defeat, etc. Maybe biographies of some bold and courageous real men is even better than a fiction.
Using real historical men as examples is a great idea! I think men would really lean into military heroes and generals, such as George Washington and Alexander the Great!
Likewise, I would suggest John Eldredge’s book “Wild at Heart.” It’s a Christian oriented work, but a transformative one nonetheless. Thanks for your suggestion!
As a father of two Eagle Scouts. I'm saddened by the demise of the Boy Scouts of America--another victim of the woke mob. None of my 8 grandsons are involved in scouting as it is not available to them.
The Boy Scouts of America used to be a very large organization with a large number of boys engaged in learning outdoor skills and principles of manliness.
How does Scott characterize the loss of the Boy Scouts of America and its impact on boys, particularly boys without strong male role models? Any chance of a resurgence of the Boy Scouts or a similar organization for boys?
I've heard Scott talk a lot about how young men need to grow a pair and ask a woman out, but I haven't heard him address the problems of doing so post-# MeToo, where breathing in the same room as a woman without her consent is enough to get the police called. This is especially true, seeing as all the young women I've grown up with are hyper-feminist and uber-woke. Assuming my life is in enough order to be reasonably attractive, and I've done everything I can to be clean, fit, well-educated and so on, how do I find someone who will make a good partner?
A related question on friends: there is a 'click' I often get with people who are on the same wavelength. It rarely happens, but when I find someone like that, we become the best of friends. How do I find people like that, and how do I become more charismatic myself so I can attract those kinds of people, or bring that out of otherwise boring people (including myself)?
It's quite obvious that material abundance does not supplant having purpose, being valued by peers in your profession or by residents of your locality, as far as giving people a sense of satisfaction with life. Our supposedly high standard of living is incredibly low judged by markers of felt purpose, freedom from stress, and actual autonomy; what can we do to improve these areas of life and negate the mental and physical maladies plaguing Man and men in techno-industrial society?
I appreciate your advice for boys and pass a lot on to my 13 year old son, but you advise going to college a lot and I'm torn. Setting campus politics aside, the costs have outpaced inflation for decades, the scarcity of degrees is gone, and many majors don't lead to graduates being qualified for jobs they wouldn't already have been qualified for. Add to this the incredible competition for entrance to top tier universities and it looks like kids have to dedicate their teen years entirely to working a system that offers diminishing returns.
I loved college so please tell me I'm missing something other than college graduates in aggregate out earn high school graduates.
Hi Scott, as an American and Democrat living in London, you can't have escaped listening to the Supreme Court Ruling on Women's spaces being for biological women only. I'm guessing you may also be aware of the Cass report and the Tavistock clinic scandal (gay kids being medicalised into straight kids).
There seems to be a deliberate avoidance by the Democrats and liberal leaders like yourself and Kara to avoid looking or talking about what Transgender ideology is doing to Women's Rights and gay kids. For a long time, I thought the 'trans thing' was like the gay thing, and I have always supported gay rights. However, when you look more closely, a lot of transgender ideology is driven by autogynephilia (a sexual fetish), autism, homophobia and misogyny. It's very hard for any woman to speak about this because of the viciousness of cancel culture on the Left. However, wealthy white liberal men can speak out without inviting backlash. What are your thoughts on this?
We need brave leaders to stand up for women and gay kids, and I'm really, really hoping that's you.
PS. For example, please see what happened to Tish Hyman a black lesbian in LA who got kicked out of her gym for complaining that a man was in there.
PPS I'm hoping you are brave enough to answer this question on Triggernometry - but if you don't and you just read it, I hope you at least think about it. Best wishes from a fan of Pivot.
Dear Scott, have you ever considered forming an organisation to include such individuals as Nick Freitas to develop a strategy on resolving the feminization of boys and men. And if you have what form will it/does it take, who are you including and how do you plan to implement or roll out? Would you start with schools, teacher training etc?
Who would you/ could you work with in government to change the overall curricula in schools in a return to facts and would you be willing to bring a coalition of like minded university professors to bring radical change to our universities to gain get back to facts and principles and education.
Scott, as a former school social worker and therapist who has primarily worked with boys and their families, I have read your books and appreciate everything you are doing to raise awareness about the struggles of boys and young men. I often find your message to be "tone deaf" in many ways, as it appears that you have no interactions with young men who are genuinely struggling. Instead, you hear from those who are highly motivated, college-educated, and have resources available to them, both in terms of positive role models and understanding how to access resources. A boy or young man who did not grow up with access to resources, a strong adult male role model, or both doesn't have those opportunities. I feel your message resonates with the "credentialed class" but is unrelatable to anyone else. Thank you, Ryan in Phoenix
Your analysis of U.S. politics strikes me as very accurate. Given the Democratic Party’s transformation and apparent lack of interest in returning to the center, why do you continue to identify as a Democrat? Do you agree that the Democrats are moving away from valuing work as virtuous?
Hello Scott, I’m 16 years old and about to go to college, what advice would you have for me, furthermore, do you have any advice and what are some things that young people do today that could maximize our time and potential
Do you think the AI market boom is going to crash soon due to overhype like the .com(dot com) boom did in the early 2000’s? If so, what would you advise to protect against at that?
Scott - What advice do you have for people 50+ years old that are considering to start their own business?
You address the material problems that men are going through, but what about the spiritual? Boys get their identities from father figures. Is it not true that a man can grow up to be a successful businessman and husband, and yet still have deep questions about himself and his masculinity that cannot be addressed by material success when he has grown up without a father? What should a man in that situation do when he is already older and past development?
You address the crisis that men have with society and masculinity through your work of non-fiction. What place do you think fiction has in the role of portraying masculinity and impacting men’s lives in contrast to non-fiction? What do you think about the demoralizing portrayals of masculinity in stories from the past few years? And do you think we need more fiction written BY MEN about masculinity that is positive and strong? Finally, what’s a good example of a character—aside from Aragorn—who you think really embodies masculinity that nobody talks about? Historical people can be chosen if preferable.
Stories are very important to human societies and individuals, they are a major force in shaping the cultures and guiding our conduct. The contestants on the survival reality-show "Alone" display good character (and they're real people): resilience, strength to persevere, humility, reasect, acceptance of defeat, etc. Maybe biographies of some bold and courageous real men is even better than a fiction.
Using real historical men as examples is a great idea! I think men would really lean into military heroes and generals, such as George Washington and Alexander the Great!
I have criticisms of Jack Donovan's *The Way of Men* but nonetheless suggest it as a worthwhile read for you.
Likewise, I would suggest John Eldredge’s book “Wild at Heart.” It’s a Christian oriented work, but a transformative one nonetheless. Thanks for your suggestion!
You often critique the hypocrisy of elite universities.
If you could redesign higher education from scratch, what would it look like?
Great question
As a father of two Eagle Scouts. I'm saddened by the demise of the Boy Scouts of America--another victim of the woke mob. None of my 8 grandsons are involved in scouting as it is not available to them.
The Boy Scouts of America used to be a very large organization with a large number of boys engaged in learning outdoor skills and principles of manliness.
How does Scott characterize the loss of the Boy Scouts of America and its impact on boys, particularly boys without strong male role models? Any chance of a resurgence of the Boy Scouts or a similar organization for boys?
This is a very good question. Both my sons are involved in scouting, I think it's essential for them to become competent men.
Fantastic! So glad there are still some involved! I know of none in our community and it used to be huge about 30 years ago.
I've heard Scott talk a lot about how young men need to grow a pair and ask a woman out, but I haven't heard him address the problems of doing so post-# MeToo, where breathing in the same room as a woman without her consent is enough to get the police called. This is especially true, seeing as all the young women I've grown up with are hyper-feminist and uber-woke. Assuming my life is in enough order to be reasonably attractive, and I've done everything I can to be clean, fit, well-educated and so on, how do I find someone who will make a good partner?
A related question on friends: there is a 'click' I often get with people who are on the same wavelength. It rarely happens, but when I find someone like that, we become the best of friends. How do I find people like that, and how do I become more charismatic myself so I can attract those kinds of people, or bring that out of otherwise boring people (including myself)?
It's quite obvious that material abundance does not supplant having purpose, being valued by peers in your profession or by residents of your locality, as far as giving people a sense of satisfaction with life. Our supposedly high standard of living is incredibly low judged by markers of felt purpose, freedom from stress, and actual autonomy; what can we do to improve these areas of life and negate the mental and physical maladies plaguing Man and men in techno-industrial society?
I appreciate your advice for boys and pass a lot on to my 13 year old son, but you advise going to college a lot and I'm torn. Setting campus politics aside, the costs have outpaced inflation for decades, the scarcity of degrees is gone, and many majors don't lead to graduates being qualified for jobs they wouldn't already have been qualified for. Add to this the incredible competition for entrance to top tier universities and it looks like kids have to dedicate their teen years entirely to working a system that offers diminishing returns.
I loved college so please tell me I'm missing something other than college graduates in aggregate out earn high school graduates.
Hi Scott, as an American and Democrat living in London, you can't have escaped listening to the Supreme Court Ruling on Women's spaces being for biological women only. I'm guessing you may also be aware of the Cass report and the Tavistock clinic scandal (gay kids being medicalised into straight kids).
There seems to be a deliberate avoidance by the Democrats and liberal leaders like yourself and Kara to avoid looking or talking about what Transgender ideology is doing to Women's Rights and gay kids. For a long time, I thought the 'trans thing' was like the gay thing, and I have always supported gay rights. However, when you look more closely, a lot of transgender ideology is driven by autogynephilia (a sexual fetish), autism, homophobia and misogyny. It's very hard for any woman to speak about this because of the viciousness of cancel culture on the Left. However, wealthy white liberal men can speak out without inviting backlash. What are your thoughts on this?
We need brave leaders to stand up for women and gay kids, and I'm really, really hoping that's you.
PS. For example, please see what happened to Tish Hyman a black lesbian in LA who got kicked out of her gym for complaining that a man was in there.
PPS I'm hoping you are brave enough to answer this question on Triggernometry - but if you don't and you just read it, I hope you at least think about it. Best wishes from a fan of Pivot.
Dear Scott, have you ever considered forming an organisation to include such individuals as Nick Freitas to develop a strategy on resolving the feminization of boys and men. And if you have what form will it/does it take, who are you including and how do you plan to implement or roll out? Would you start with schools, teacher training etc?
Who would you/ could you work with in government to change the overall curricula in schools in a return to facts and would you be willing to bring a coalition of like minded university professors to bring radical change to our universities to gain get back to facts and principles and education.
Scott, as a former school social worker and therapist who has primarily worked with boys and their families, I have read your books and appreciate everything you are doing to raise awareness about the struggles of boys and young men. I often find your message to be "tone deaf" in many ways, as it appears that you have no interactions with young men who are genuinely struggling. Instead, you hear from those who are highly motivated, college-educated, and have resources available to them, both in terms of positive role models and understanding how to access resources. A boy or young man who did not grow up with access to resources, a strong adult male role model, or both doesn't have those opportunities. I feel your message resonates with the "credentialed class" but is unrelatable to anyone else. Thank you, Ryan in Phoenix
Your analysis of U.S. politics strikes me as very accurate. Given the Democratic Party’s transformation and apparent lack of interest in returning to the center, why do you continue to identify as a Democrat? Do you agree that the Democrats are moving away from valuing work as virtuous?
What is your goal when you go around different social media platforms and talk about different topics? Why should I recommend you to my guy-friends?