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j juniper's avatar

Thank you for taking our questions.

Do you think would help young women if more older women; who who were fortunate enough to have great husbands, fathers, brothers and uncles; spoke up about the positive effects of good men? Provide guidance as to what to look for and how to spot a decent guy?

Thank you.

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fish'n'chips's avatar

Hi, you interviewed Mridul Wadhwa about 4 years ago, and appeared very supportive of this man running Rape Crisis Centres for women. He famously stated that the women survivors objecting to men in their spaces needed to be re-educated. Have your views evolved since then?

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The Wood Owl's avatar

What is the driving factor behind the inability of progressive causes to discuss ideas rationally and agree a "big tent" position which inevitably leads to a cannibalisation of their supporters? How can this then be weaponised by centrists and the right to reduce the influence progressives have in politics?

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Jamie Miller's avatar

Why do you think there is often resistance to the idea that gender equality should include advocacy for men’s issues as well? In conversations about privilege and oppression, why do you think men’s disadvantages (such as higher suicide rates or workplace deaths) are rarely highlighted by feminist activists?

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Marko Arčabić's avatar

Let’s be brutally honest here, how many of our issues today are directly related to too much oestrogen and not enough men?

Should have we told you all to be quiet after the right to vote, or let you taste your own medicine by requiring military service with the vote?

Was it always “the rich white woman problem”?

I wrote this in the most offensive manner I could think while avoiding being stabbed by a certain someone

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K Holiday's avatar

Hi Deborah, I'm a huge fan. I wonder if you could speak about apostasy. If you're not opposed, would you share some thoughts on how JWs have been known to treat those that have legitimate questions about their faith or teachings and if that same fear of apostasy among those today of various political groups is relevant. Is there a similar sequence of going from having just a small question about how one thing fits in with a belief system --and being labeled heretical and dangerous to speak to? Do people have a fear that their belief won't hold up to scrutiny? Do you think people are afraid that they will be lead astray by 'apostates'? I hope those questions made sense. Love your work.

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Edward Vella's avatar

Why do companies have divisive wording to promote events? E.g at work we have “women in tech” and allies are welcome. So if I don’t attend I’m not an ally or even don’t care?

This is also related but what can be done to stop companies using language to alienate employees just because they’re men? If someone challenges it, then they get a target painted on their back.

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Mark A's avatar

Hi Deborah, over the past few years I've observed that instead of people having different opinions on the same set of facts, people now have different facts that lead them to completely polarised starting positions. How did we get here? How do we get out? And practically for someone having a political discussion today, how can we bridge this gap? Thanks! Mark (a fellow Aussie)

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JohnBry's avatar

Are we really so divided that conversation between Right and Left is impossible? That might be true on the internet where the loudest, most strident voices dominate, but in real life people seem to get along alright. Or am I being fooled by people who have faux friendly conversations about the weather (excluding climate change!) but are ready to eradicate their political opponents at the first opportunity?

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Geary Johansen's avatar

You've broadly been supportive of DEI in the past., but research shows that Black and LGBT employees are more likely to leave the workplace after DEI training, because it makes the workplace more uncomfortable. Two questions- first, do you think it's possible standard DEI, with it's focus on centring discomfort, increases attributional ambiguity, because it makes others fearful of saying the wrong thing around minorities? Second, do you think it's time one of the more conciliatory DEI systems is tried more widely in the UK, such as the program pioneered by Chloé Valdary in the States?

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Rebecca's avatar

How should people recognise red flags on their own side? What are maybe 3 questions you should always ask about your own side?

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